Relationships are such a funny thing. You meet a person and basically go ‘I like this one, I shall have them in my life constantly’ then you just evolve into something that is a mixture of friendship and love. It’s crazy to think that one day your partner was literally a stranger to you and you had to get yourself out there to meet them.
I had my first date with my partner in a pub of all places. We arranged to meet there as it was close to my friends house and close to where he lived. I had never been so scared in my life and I have no idea why, I had butterflies upon butterflies flying around my stomach. I was nervous, I had clammy hands and I swear I was breaking out into a cold sweat outside. This meant I waited outside for 45 minutes plucking up the courage to go in and meet him, he thought I had stood him up. I went in and luckily he was still there.
Now when I look back on it I really don’t know why I was so scared. We seemed like old friends who had just had a little time apart. We spent the whole night laughing and talking, discovering that we have been in the same places at the same time our whole lives. That our families had lived near each other as kids, that we used to hang around with some of the same people when we were younger and that our local drinking spots were the same. Even my extended family and friends had lived in other places he had lived, it was truly weird that our whole lives we had been crossing paths but just hadn’t bumped into each other.
I never wanted that night to end, I remember going home and thinking how much I liked him. Luckily for me the feeling was mutual and we have been inseparable ever since.
I’ve never really been fully vulnerable with someone, never allowed them fully in as I have always had a guard up. With my partner it’s different, I allow myself to be vulnerable with him and I allow him to know all about me, he makes me feel safe, loved and like I’m everything and anything he has ever needed. I know it sounds soppy, but it’s really true.
He has the biggest heart you could ever imagine and he does the sweetest things, even though he would like to make out that he doesn’t.
For my birthday last year he came to my house with a birthday cake, decorated with make up items and sang me happy birthday. He has taken me for surprise breakfast at the farm as he knew I would love it, we’ve driven over 30 miles to go to a restaurant he knew I would love and we’ve even travelled to Brighton just to enjoy the evening sun.
When I look back over the last year I think to myself I am really lucky to have found someone who just get’s me the way he does, I couldn’t imagine a life without him and I don’t really remember what life was like before him. I can say for the first time in my life I am genuinely happy and I can’t wait to see what the future holds.
Finding someone now days is really hard, I see my friends struggle a lot. I was lucky mine happened naturally but I know a lot of people need a helping hand. With the pressures of working longer, wanting a social life and just having time to yourself a lot of people say there isn’t time to meet anyone. This is where the likes of online dating can come into play.
You could always try a free dating site, there are many out there like Match Me Happy. This makes falling in love that little bit easier as you can go out and look for what you want in your own time, from the comfort of anywhere and you can even do it in your pyjamas.
I think online dating is definitely the way forward for the busier people out there, especially as you can talk to the person first, get to know them and see if there could potentially be something there. I know that one of the main things my friends don’t want to do is waste time and have had a lot of success with many different dating sites.
Have you tried online dating? Did you meet your partner naturally?