1. Being a young parent
When I was younger I used to get looked down upon because I was a young parent, to be honest I don’t really care what anyone could think. I may have had Tapanga a lot younger than I planned but I wouldn’t change her for the world. We have both grown up with each other and have taught one another how to be the people we are today. I won’t apologise for loving my child unconditionally and doing everything in my power to better our lives, I know when she grows up she will value many things as even though she is around it has never stopped me from carrying on my education, getting good jobs and just generally being a better person. Instead of apologising, I’d rather thank Tapanga for being the little human being who made my life.
2. Getting emotional
I’ve had a lot of traumatising experiences in my 26 years on this planet and sometimes things do become overwhelming whether that be with sadness or anger, these things can make even the strongest of people break. I will never apologise for letting my emotions get the better of me… Especially with my TV shows.
3. Caring about my friends
My friends have been my rock throughout a lot of things and I can honestly say that without them I am not sure how my life would have turned out, I regard many of my friends as my family and I shall never apologise about caring for them.
4. Still sleeping with my teddy
Sleeping with a teddy has been something I have done since I was a baby, I actually can’t sleep without him as he has become a massive security for me. Mummy needs a teddy too!
5. Telling my child NO!
I see so many judgemental people when you dare to tell your child no in a public place, even some of them pip in their own two cents like they know better or a little condescending comment which is meant to make you feel like the god awful parent that you are. Well I am not going to let my child grow up into a spoilt little brat, thinking that at any little tantrum they can get exactly what they want, instead I shall hold my head high, say no and carry on with my business.
6. Taking some ‘me’ time
Oh how dare I take five minutes for myself or god forbid a whole night! This is something that all people need to do at some point to just get away from whatever it is that is bothering you but when you are a parent it seems this is so frowned upon by all the uber mums out there, I mean its great that you can be mum 24/7 and bake fantastic cookies while your kids never get on your nerves. For me I need to know that I am still me… Charlotte, Charli, Char! I still want to know that I have another label other than the one that was attached to me almost 10 years ago.
7. Liking most of the programmes on Disney Channel
I know I shouldn’t, I know I’m technically getting ‘too old’ but I can’t help it. Give me a catchy little theme song and a Hannah Montana style show and I’m good to go!
8. Lying to my child
I want Tapanga to stay a child for as long as she possibly can so if that means keeping the Tooth Fairy, Easter Bunny and Santa Claus alive through small lies I shall do it, I shall also tell her little porkies to spare her feelings when people let her down as I don’t think she is yet at an age where she can understand that although some people love you unconditionally they can still let you down.
9. Being honest with my child
Other than a few white lies here and there with Tapanga, I am a great believer in honesty is the best policy. If she can’t do something I shall tell her why or if she asks me a question I shall try to answer it as fully and as truthfully as I can because I expect the same level of respect and honesty from her as I give. She knows through this that if she does something wrong like breaking something she can always come and tell me as the consequences or punishment will be next to nothing compared to if she had lied and tried to hide something from me.
10. Choosing my child above everything else
A lot of people who do not have children rarely understand that its not so easy for parents to just head out or drop everything to make a plan to do something, I mean if I am out and someone calls me to tell me Tapanga needs me I am gone to be with her or if she doesn’t want to go to stay with a family member so I can have a night out I won’t force her as I am not selfish and have my whole life to enjoy doing the things I want to do but I will never get Tapanga’s childhood moments back. If people can’t deal with that then I won’t apologise because when their day comes they will realise the exact same thing.
Do you have anything you will not apologise for?