So this is going to be a completely off topic post just because I think a few things need to be said as I couldn’t sleep last night thinking about all this stuff.
So first of all I want to introduce you to the love of my life, you have all seen her before and she is…
So lets get on to what I want to talk about and that is stereotypes…
I was a teenage mum I had Tapanga when I was 16 and I am not ashamed to say that as she is the most amazing child I know, she brightens up not only my day but also everyone else’s day!
Now I have become to be quite offended by the stereotypes of a teenage mum because I and many others I know do not fit into this category, people presume that we are slags and crave attention and love that we haven’t received at home but for me and many others this couldn’t be further from the truth, although I do know there are some that fit into the teen mum stereotype but it is far less than is made out!
I come from a loving caring family where I never wanted for anything and getting pregnant was an accident but with being a pregnant teen came a lot more stress than a older woman would probably encounter. I would be stared at, called a slag, told I’m only having a baby to live off the state and get a flat, did I know who the dad was? and many other horrible things. The thing is I wasn’t a slag, I wasn’t compensating for a love replacement, I wasn’t going to be living off the state as my partner had a really good job and I sure as hell knew who my babies dad was and shock horror yes I was still with him!!
After having Panga the criticism didn’t stop! I remember getting on the bus once and being called a slag and told that I had dropped out of school to have babies when actually I had finished school nearly a year before and had a job in my local hairdressers, people look at you when your child starts school too trying to decide if you are her sister or her mum and I was also asked before Tapangas teacher knew who I was if she was going to be meeting Tapangas parents anytime soon… How awkward for her hey!
Me and Pangas dad have been on our own with her since she was 4 weeks old (although we never had any help in them first 4 I’m just saying that’s when we moved out) so everything she is becoming is down to us and that makes me so proud beyond any belief imaginable.
Still today I think to many people are quick to tar everyone with the same brush and theres a reason you hear about the bad stories because a story where everything turned out rosy and great wouldn’t make good reading now would it?
Another thing for everyone who thinks that when you have a baby young your life is over I have to say that is the biggest bunch of bullshit I have ever heard, its only over if you let it. I have done so much since having her, I have been to college gained great qualifications, worked in some great places, go out most Friday nights, see my friends a lot, been on holidays… Everything! Pascal has a great job too and always has, he does very well at providing for his family and making sure that our daughters needs are met.
Finally this post isn’t just about teen mums its about all stereotypes in general, for instance…
If your fat your a lazy slob who eats all day which for some is untrue, people could have things wrong with them that cause them to be like that and some people just can’t seem to get to a healthy weight.. If your depressed or have to see a councillor your classed as mental… All youths are classed as twatty little thugs which can be true but there are a big minority of them that are not… If you like make up and pretty things your a superficial bimbo… The list of these things are endless, I guess what I am trying to say is that people shouldn’t judge until they know fully what they are talking about and should definitely not judge based on stereotypes and statistics because there are a lot of people out there that a far from them.
Never judge a book by it’s cover, read the first few chapters first!
I’m sorry if this post offends anyone in any way but I just had to get my point across as a lot of these issues bother me and I think maybe by shedding light on them people could start to act differently.